Why Does My Penis Look Smaller... and My Balls Hang Lower?"

A 60-year-old student of mine recently asked me:
“Emma, can you let me know if it’s common for a man’s penis to get smaller while his testicles seem to be bigger, hang lower... My girth is still good when erect, but when flaccid it seems smaller than usual. I’m 60 years old — is this normal, or should I see a consultant about it?”

The Sexologist’s Answer — What’s Physically Happening

First, let’s normalize this:
Yes, it’s very common for men to notice that their penis appears smaller when flaccid and that the testicles hang lower with age.

Here’s why:

• Hormonal Shifts: Testosterone gradually declines with age, affecting muscle tone, connective tissue, and vascular flow in the genital region. Less testosterone means softer support structures and looser scrotal skin.

• Elasticity & Collagen Loss: Just like facial skin, the scrotum and penile shaft lose collagen over time, leading to a lower hang and a softer, more retracted flaccid state.

• Circulation Changes: Reduced physical activity, mild weight gain, and vascular stiffness can make the penis retract more easily. Blood flow efficiency is everything when it comes to flaccid fullness.

• Temperature Regulation: The testicles naturally hang lower in warm conditions and closer in cool ones — over time, this balance shifts as the cremasteric reflex weakens.

• Medication & Lifestyle Factors: Statins, blood pressure meds, poor sleep, alcohol, or low activity can all slightly alter vascular tone and hormonal health.

The reassuring truth:
If your erect girth and function are still strong, and there’s no pain, swelling, or sudden asymmetry, this is a "normal" part of aging physiology (which you can slow down and reverse to some extent by doing the good work!) — not a disease.
Still, if you notice pain, sudden swelling, or a rapid change on one side, see a urologist to rule out testicular varicocele or other issues.

The Tantric & Holistic Perspective — The Virtilité View

From a Tantric lens, this change is not just physical — it’s energetic.
In the second half of life, a man’s body begins to redirect energy from outward performance to inward mastery.

When the penis softens more easily, it’s not necessarily a sign of loss. It’s often the body inviting you into greater sensitivity, presence, and energetic awareness.

In Taoist and Tantric medicine, the pelvic basin — the root — is the cauldron of vitality. When circulation, breath, and energy stagnate there (through stress, sitting, or emotional repression), the life-force that keeps the cock “awake” starts to pool and dull.

But this can be reversed!

The Virtilité Method: Restoring Vital Circulation and Tone

Your penis is a barometer of your vitality.
To restore tone, fullness, and life-force in your erotic body, you must awaken blood, breath, and energy through these three pathways:

1. Move Your Chi — Circulation & Breathwork

Daily movement (especially squats, lunges, yoga, and walking) enhances pelvic blood flow. Combine this with deep diaphragmatic and perineal breathing — inhaling down to the root, exhaling through the heart — to draw energy through your entire body.
Tantric Breath Practice: “Root to Crown” breathing — inhale through the nose, feel the pelvic floor expand, exhale through the mouth and lift the energy up your spine.

2. Nourish the Hormones — Nutrition for Vitality

Eat for testosterone and vascular health: zinc-rich oysters, nitric oxide foods like beets and pomegranate, and circulation enhancers like cacao and leafy greens.
Avoid endocrine disruptors (plastics, processed oils, alcohol excess). Your blood is your erection’s best friend.

3. Tone the Pelvic Base — Strength and Release

Strengthen the pelvic floor with mindful reverse Kegels (learning to release tension, not just contract). This restores elasticity and tone.
The goal is power with softness — the hallmark of a balanced masculine system.

The Invitation

If you’re noticing these changes, don’t see them as decline — see them as a call to awaken your deeper vitality.
Your body is asking for renewed devotion: to your breath, your movement, your pleasure, and your energy.

Through the Virtilité Method, I teach men to reawaken this current of life-force — not through pills and pumps, but through reconnection.
Your cock is not losing power.
It’s asking you to reclaim it from within.

There are a couple ways I can help you:
Option 1 - Self- Paced Discovery:I am developing recorded guided practices in the Tantric Awakenings App to restore circulation, breath, and confidence in your erotic body and will notify you when they're available. I call them the Sound Self-Discovery Meditations (SSDM).

Option 2 - Group Men Coaching

Join The Warrior’s Calling — a Brotherhood of Tantric Warriors and my 12-month path of Sexual Vitality & Mastery for men ready to reignite their power, presence, and pleasure.

Devotionally Yours,
Emma
Founder, Tantric Awakenings

“Your manhood is not measured by how long it stands,
but by how deeply it breathes with life.”
– Goddess Scarlett