My specialty clients found me (thank you!) and I work best with:
Men who struggle with erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
More often men between their 40's and 70's, age at which signs of andropause appear, stress and health issues is starting to take its toll and the old ways to fuck no longer work. I work best with men ready to look beyond the blue pill and quick fixes and truly understand what's going on in there, trust to their cock's wisdom and approach the problem holistically: achieve vibrant health physically, mentally and emotionally and reframe their beliefs around sexuality and explore new ways to relate and handle to their cocks.
Men ready for a relationship and ready to heal past hurt, change destructive habits, learn what women truly want and acquire the tools to create the relationship they most desire.
Often in their 20's and 30's, my clients have been hurt, emasculated and confused by the women in their lives (or carry a Father wound), and have gradually hidden who they truly are, their fears and their desires and may feel a bit lost, less confident and it's affecting their life in general. My best clients are those ready to find their masculine power again and to become the leaders of their life, their family, and their community by healing and integrating their sexuality (shadow work!). I find that the clients I attract are men with a spiritual sensitivity, be it a connection to nature, a connection to religion or zen philosophy, meditation practitioners, martial artists, visual artists, musicians, yoga teachers, and coaches.
Couples ready to explore Tantric Sex together.
My clients are all couples in love looking to deepen their love and connection. Some are about to get married and wanting to learn tools to increase the success of their future marriage. Others have been married for 7 years and feeling the pressures of work, co-parenting and chronic exhaustion with no time for sex. Others have 30 years of marriage, recently retired and feeling a bit disconnected from each other and wanting a second honeymoon. I had one courageous couple who hired me when she was battling brain cancer, seeking nutritional support and guidance for her to reclaim her power to orgasm, lost during cancer, and reconnect her brain to her pussy. It worked...
My couple's sessions are like date nights held during day time:).
MEET THE COACH
Bonjour, I'm Emma!
I’m a Certified Tantric and Holistic Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach. I help men develop a glorious relationship with their body and sexuality and overcome erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation and sex/porn addiction. I also help men and couples have better, more connected sex and connect effectively around their fears, desires and love.
I'm also a holistic health and nutrition coach, yoga teacher, and personal trainer. In that capacity, I help people overcome chronic illnesses, heal reproductive and hormonal health issues to emerge vibrantly healthy.
You may wonder what a Tantric Sex Coach does and why I became one.
SEX AS LIFE FORCE
Great sex and loving relationships create a foundation for vibrant health, self-discovery, self-love, and self-acceptance. Sexual energy is the ultimate life force -source of all creation - a new life, the arts, a business even reversing disease. No amount of broccoli, early bedtime and running will bring as much self-love and healing the way a full body orgasm will! Fall madly in love and you'll even forget to eat, drink and sleep yet you'll be bursting with energy with that unmistakable glow and the desire to create!
MY BREAKING MOMENT
For a couple years, I struggled with ulcerative colitis, “an inflammatory bowel disease (IBD) that causes inflammation and ulcers (sores) in your colon.” I managed my condition with diet and lifestyle, but flare-ups occurred. The flare-ups felt connected to my inability to openly share certain desires with my beloved husband for fear of losing him.
So, one New Year's Day, in the depth of my emotional pain, out of love and respect for us both, I found the courage to speak my truth to my husband. Our decade together as married partners ended. We uncoupled consciously and peacefully and transitioned from a married couple to mutually respectful platonic friends. My ulcerative colitis went into remission, and I enrolled in Tantric Coaching School.
MY SEXUAL EMPOWERMENT STORY
After my marriage ended, I met a man of incredible presence. He had abundant awareness, strength, safety, and unwavering love. I cracked open like never before, fully embodying the receiving energy of the feminine, where women’s strongest power resides. I experienced being pushed past my breaking emotional point, the pieces of my broken heart separating open, allowing a torrential flow of pain through me. I felt sexual pleasure and repeated orgasms as if all the grief, shame, and guilt I had felt throughout the years turned into a vast ocean of love, compassion, and forgiveness. I dissolved and floated away in wave after wave of orgasms an intensity and diversity I'd never experienced before: clitoral and G-spot orgasms, cervical orgasms, but also cry-gasms and brain-gasms. He held me strong in his presence through it all and never stopped making love to me. I felt seen and understood without judgment. I began to see the world and my life in a new way. The experience was healing and transformative; I wasn't the same woman when I left him. I had processed and released past hurts, found lost parts of myself (inner child) and embraced them in, coming out more authentically me.
Then, I envisioned a new direction for my career that combines holistic nutrition and lifestyle coaching for hormonal balance and sexual vibrancy with the wisdom traditions of Tantra and Taoism. I aim to change how men and couples relate to and integrate their sexuality into their lives, to awaken and cultivate their own sexual life force energy to enhance their health and unlock their human potential: the Virtilité Method and Tantric Awakenings.
Invest In Your Sexual Discovery.
Obsessed with my one-night stand experience, I went on a self-discovery journey of my own female body to reclaim my full orgasmic potential. I wanted to master the woman's pathway to orgasmic transformation I had experienced. I discovered that the female pathway to orgasm is NOT the same as the man's pathway to orgasm (that which conventional sex is based on). The woman's pathway to orgasm is the exact opposite of a man's and it has long been forgotten. It's the pathway of surrender, yielding, melting, softening and being in a state of flow (no wonder women's monthly flow is full of symptoms and that 75% of women cannot orgasm vaginally. We've forgotten our nature!).
It's in her power of surrender that a woman is at her more powerful... and most attractive (of everything she wants) and where the polarity with masculine "penetrative" men is also at its strongest. Self-pleasure became a daily practice of "self-love meditation" and inner discovery and I am still on this journey (with no-end).
But women's feminine power comes into full force, amplify, when it is met with an equal and opposite match. Partnered sex with a magnetic man of great presence and knowledge of women's sexual pathways to share the experience with, will allow you both to drop faster and deeper into your blissful and transformative sexual nature.
This is why my calling is to help every man awaken to their own penetrative presence and power. This world needs more Great Lovers, so that they can be catalysts in their own and their partner's sexual empowerment, in their healing and to experience at last, the unconditional love, freedom, understanding, respect and acceptance so many men seek as well as more confidence and success in the world.
Likewise, I work with couples who want to experience deeper connection and better sex, and for the spiritually curious, sacred sex.
My Tantric Sex Coaching Credentials
In 2009, I started investing in my Tantric education, taking courses yearly as a student from several masters. It wasn't until COVID that I finally felt ready to enroll in a certifying Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Program with my favorite teacher, Layla Martin.
I certified in the VITA Method (Vital and Integrated Tantric Approach) practiced around the world by VITA Practitioners. The Method takes the most effective teachings of modern neurobiology, holistic somatic healing, and modern coaching and blend them with ancient wisdom and teachings from Tantra and Daoism.
It enables me to investigate and challenge the life beliefs, mental constructs, unconscious patterns and obstacles relating to the areas you want to improve and that may get in the way of getting what you want. One way to guarantee that tomorrow will be the same old as today is if you drag your past into the present. I teach my clients to break free from old stories around sex, love and relationships and create a new narrative for a better present and future for themselves rooted in their authentic nature.
I hold space for my clients with a lot of safety, empathy, love and compassion, and zero judgement on my client's cultures, life choices and struggles. It's all the more important in sex, love and relationship coaching and I've been fortunate to work with clients spanning cultures, continents, beliefs systems and religions (Judaism, Christianity, Islam, Buddhism). I respect my clients' views and learn a lot from them.
Fun Facts About Me.
I am French and American and worked and lived in many countries. I moved 25 times!
I published a book called “Feeding Success: A Nutrition Blueprint for Fuel Busy Professionals and Business Travelers”. It tells the story of how anyone can use nutrition and lifestyle as the key to unlocking their potential and as a competitive advantage to build the career and life of their dreams. You can find it on Amazon!
I teach free nude yoga classes on public nude beaches with students of all ages and genders. I've even taught nude yoga at Hedonism! I want people to know and experience that nudity and sexuality are two different things. Ultimately, embracing our nudity is self-love.
I love riding my motorcycle all year long, on solo adventures around the country, and on the race track.
I can live on black beans, mango, avocados, coconuts, kale, oysters and cacao.
I have an OnlyFans account and am very proud of it. There, in the protection of the anti-piracy software of the OF Vault, I feel safe teaching a variety of Tantric tools and techniques, nude yoga, breathwork, mindful masturbation to and for men so that they can learn to love themselves, change their mindset around sexuality and how they interact with women, find their true power and become the Greatest Lovers. My OF account has also helped me grow more assured into my own Goddess feminine energy and to share vulnerably who I truly am while honoring my boundaries. I love educating my fans on what the female sexual language of love and pleasure is and demonstrating what a healthy and radiant feminine woman is when she feels secure, confident and shame-free. We all rise together.
I place no judgement on the relationship container of my clients and their sexual ways and I have experience being in a wonderful and long monogamous marriage, being in ethical non-monogamous relationships, in polyamorous relationships, and being in committed open relationships.
I am currently the Tantric Sex Expert at the famous WeareNSFW in New York City, leading Tantric events for couples monthly.
My happy place is the beach. I love swimming in the ocean all year round, in my birthday suit preferably:)
FAQS
My boundaries
I hold strong boundaries with my clients to maintain the integrity of a safe, welcoming, caring, and comfortable coaching space. There is no flirting allowed, I do not give any sensual or sexual vibes to the men, women and couples I work with and I keep my clothes on at all times, even when the coaching session calls for my clients to be in the nude. I stand on the outside of the Coaching Container, protecting it like a fortress. I am the guardian of the most vulnerable and open conversations and experiences my clients will ever have with themselves or with their partners. This is sacred to me. I am a coach but I am also a High Priestess transferring the wisdom traditions of Tantra and Daoism and I feel responsible to carry the integrity of the lineage I teach from. I have received the coaching I give (mandatory to become a VITA Tantric Sex, Love and Relationship Coach) and it is the quality of the coaching space that makes the Program work like magic.
Do you do in-person coaching?
Yes I do for group coaching events but not for individual and one couple sex coaching programs.
There are 3 reasons why I do not coach individuals/one couple in-person:
1. Because it enables me to better hold my boundaries (see first FAQ )
2. It enables me to better hold the integrity of the coaching space energy. I do not want my in-person presence to alter the energy of my client's home which would change their experience
3. Because before each of my client sessions, I go through a ritual to center myself, connect with my client's energy remotely and create a sacred coaching space. I wouldn't be able to do this if I traveled to visit my clients.
However, I do coach in-person group events. I have a lot of experience teaching nude yoga, and tantric events for small and large groups. I am able to hold the same integrity and sacredness of my coaching/teaching space with groups as I do in my individual and couples Zoom sessions.
What to expect: Tantric sex coaching for men
I coach via Zoom, with camera on (you can turn it off any time). It enables me to hold integrity, safety and comfort of your coaching space. The sessions are 90min long. You are alone in your space, and you have me on the screen, a little bit like any virtual meeting with any coach or specialist, except that we speak and work on your sex, love and relationships life. Each session is unique in its design, but it includes a speaking part and a Tantric and somatic practice part in support of your goals and the intention of the particular session. Sometimes the practices will be breathwork, meditation, embodiment practices, somatic coaching to uncover old and sometimes unconscious beliefs, patterns and behaviors that keep you stuck and reframe your mind, and sometimes Tantric masturbation practice and sex muscles strengthening practices ranging from beginner to advanced sexual training. The sessions are very private and confidential. To work with me you must commit to a minimum of 10-sessions.
What to expect: Tantric sex coaching for couples
Very similar to the Men's Coaching Program. I coach over zoom, with camera on (you can turn it off any time). The Tantric Sex Coaching Program helps couples explore two avenues: Tantric Sex in the service of having better more orgasmic and connected sex or/and to support couples in their exploration of sacred sex. That is the path of connecting their sexuality to their path of personal and spiritual growth. Each session will begin with setting an intention, then guide you through practices to establish connection and communication in the moment and then explore an aspect of Tantric sexuality. It could be a Tantric pussy or penis massage exchange under my coaching, primal breathwork together to awaken primal sexual energy, discover your body and orgasmic capacity, etc. While there is no actual love-making during the session (I leave the clients to their most intimate moments), I will however coach you to touch each other, and discover each other's bodies and your orgasmic capacity with touch in a safe, comfortable and professional coaching container.
Can holistic nutrition help with specific health issues like erectile dysfunction or fertility?
Absolutely! Holistic nutrition is highly effective for addressing specific health concerns because the mindset is: We are what we eat! The food we eat becomes our blood, cells, our nerves, our hormones. Your nutrition can either support the trifecta of great sex, cardiovascular health, nerves integrity and sensitivity and sex hormones balance or it can destroy it. Holistic nutrition looks also looks at the lifestyle habits and whether they support the trifecta of great sex or not.
What is holistic nutrition, and how does it differ from traditional dieting?
Holistic nutrition is a comprehensive approach to well-being that considers not only what you eat but also how you live, think, and feel. It focuses on nourishing your body, mind, and soul. Unlike traditional diets that often promote quick fixes, holistic nutrition emphasizes long-term lifestyle changes. It tailors nutrition plans to your unique needs, taking into account your health goals, preferences, and any underlying health conditions. This approach promotes sustainable, lasting health and wellness.
