THE MOST EROTIC PERSON IN THE ROOM

Is not necessarily the one having the most sex, but the one most deeply in love with being alive..

From wanting to be loved by a particular person, or wanting Life to be different... to falling in love with Life itself as the greatest act of eroticism.

People often ask me how to cultivate greater sexual vitality and I have the credentials to coach on nutrition and lifestyle to answer this question "scientifically".

But a new answer appeared to me this week that I must share.

The deeper I walk this Tantric path, the more I see vitality everywhere.

It's not only in the bedroom, in a strong erection, a healthy body, or abundant energy.

I see it in my breakfast's ripe mango, in the juicy sweetness of the lychees, in a warm cup of coconut matcha held between my hands.

In the morning sun on my skin.

In the ocean.

In a flower opening toward the light.

Life is constantly expressing itself all around us and sexual vitality is simply another expression of that same Life Force.

Many people approach vitality as something to build:

• How do I increase my libido?

• How do I have stronger erections?

• How do I feel younger?

• How do I have more energy?

These are not bad questions. I have spent two decades helping answer these questions and continue to do so (this month's in the Warrior's Calling we focus on Vitality with all of science's tools).

But perhaps these questions are incomplete. What I have been discovering lately is something different and this week it is changing my transmission in the Warrior's Calling (my School is transforming me just as much as it is transforming the Warriors:)

• What if vitality is not something we build, but something we receive when we stop obstructing the flow of Life within us?

• What if vitality is the natural consequence of being deeply nourished by Life?

When a man sits by the ocean.
When he slows down enough to taste his food.
When he allows himself to feel grief.
When he receives the warmth of the sun.
When he moves his body.
When he stops fighting reality.

When he learns to receive the simple gifts that are already here.
When he falls in love with Life itself.

Something begins to return: Vitality.

Because vitality is Life and life flows where it is welcomed.

This has become especially clear to me over the past few months. I am in the season of my life where I am experiencing this so deeply.

Like many of you, I have known heartbreak.

I have known longing.

I have known the desire for things to be different than they are.

And yet, through all of it, Life kept offering herself.

In the ocean.

In a conversation with a friend.

In the taste of fruit.

In the movement of my breath.

In the simple privilege of being alive.

Slowly, my devotion began to shift.

From wanting to be loved by a particular person...

To falling in love with Life itself.

And perhaps that is the deepest teaching Tantra has given me. I'll give you three examples:

1. When grieving in heartbreak for instance:

"If our paths meet again, I will greet you with an open heart and clear eyes. And if they do not, I will continue loving Life".

2.When facing financial uncertainty.

Many men unknowingly postpone their relationship with abundance. They wait for a number in a bank account, a successful launch, a profitable year, or some future milestone before allowing themselves to feel prosperous.

"If abundance arrives tomorrow, I will welcome it. And until then, I will continue noticing the abundance already present around me."

In the food on my plate.

The air filling my lungs.

The sun rising every morning without asking for anything in return.

In friendship, laughter, health, and in the simple fact that I am alive.

3. When moving through adversity:

"If circumstances change, I will celebrate them. And if they do not, I will continue loving Life."

When we stop withholding our love from Life until our problems are solved, and remember that life is here all along, life force begins to move again. Desire returns. Energy returns. Presence returns.

Because the more devoted I become to Life itself, the more alive I feel.

Perhaps the most erotic person in the room is not the one having the most sex.

Perhaps it is the one most deeply in love with being alive.

When faced with adversity Warrior, how can you come back to yourself and to life and deepen your devotion to life itself?

I'd love to continue this conversation in The Warriors Circle, my free community for men on the Tantric Path of sex, love and relationship.Click here to request access for free(answer 3 questions and provide a clear profile face pic on your request and a few sentences about you to be considered). You may access it on your computer or my Tantric Awakenings App.

Enjoy the journey.

With much love and gratitude for your presence here,

Emma