5 Ways Your Sexuality Can Get You Out Of Procrastination!

Hello Darling,

Do you find yourself procrastinating for longer than you want at times? How do you get out of it I wonder?

I've been procrastinating too around blogging and posting content... I apologize. Procrastinating is very much out of character for me because I live most of my day in a state of flow. I've faced a few obstacles and tapped into my masculine energy to try to resolve them, got caught into paralysis by analysis and lost connection with my feminine magic.

My feminine way is one that doesn't make logical sense but where all creativity flows at lightning speed and where I attract so much goodness. It's like a chill rocket ship. Huge accelerated results while being in a flowing relaxed state instead of tensed grinding state, for which, as a woman, hormonal-speaking, I am naturally less capable to handle for long periods of time (my testosterone levels are soo much lower than yours!).

But my procrastination bout got me thinking and trying things out and here's what your Tantric Teacher uncovered... Even our sexuality, done right, is the answer to procrastination!

Procrastination is not merely inaction—it is resistance. It's the energy within you misdirected, or stuck, a river dammed instead of flowing freely. It could be a big change you resist, a problem you're struggling to resolve, exhaustion, etc.

Your sexuality, your life force, is the key to breaking this stagnation, coming back to a state of flow and stepping into purposeful action.

Here are five ways to harness your sexual energy to move beyond procrastination that I've tried successfully these past couple months:

1. Transmute Sexual Energy into Creative Drive

Your sexual energy is your rawest, most potent life force—capable of creating life itself. When you feel stuck, rather than letting that energy remain dormant or dissipate aimlessly, channel it into your work, passions, or projects.

Try this: In a seated position (maybe at your desk), breathe deeply in your lower belly, begin to slowly massage your testicles or stroke your penis (if you have privacy), engage your pelvic floor, and visualize your energy rising from your perineum (root chakra) up into your mind—where ideas and execution meet. I personally stroke my clitoris at my desk and channel the energy up. It works incredibly well. Note: Do not bring yourself all the way to a state of tension and ejaculation! Keep yourself relaxed and in a state of flow in the here and now.

2. Activate the Body, Activate the Mind

Procrastination often stems from a sluggish body and a distracted mind. Movement awakens the energy trapped within you.

Try this: Practice deep hip-opening yoga, stretching, breathwork, exercise or self-pleasure with awareness as described above—not for release, but to stir and circulate energy throughout your system, awakening your drive and motivation.

3. Make Pleasure Your Reward, Not Your Escape

Many men procrastinate because they seek small, fleeting pleasures—social media, distractions, indulgences, snacking, mindless masturbation, porn. But true fulfillment comes when you earn pleasure through presence and action.

Try this: Set clear intentions: "When I complete this task, I will celebrate with mindful pleasure—a self-massage, intimate connection, a long hot shower, going out with friends." This rewires your brain to link productivity with deeper, more rewarding pleasures.

4. Reconnect with Desire & Purpose

Sexual energy is the essence of desire. When procrastination arises, ask yourself: What do I truly desire? Is your task connected to a greater longing? If your work and purpose do not excite you, find a way to infuse them with passion. Your libido and your life’s drive are intertwined—aligning your daily actions with your heart’s calling reignites motivation.

5. Overcome Resistance with Ritual

Procrastination thrives in disorder, but ritual creates flow. Just as foreplay prepares the body for deep intimacy, a pre-task ritual prepares the mind for focus.

Try this: Light a candle, do a grounding meditation or breathwork, invoke your inner warrior, and commit to beginning with full presence. I also use essential oils of peppermint and lemon to keep my mind sharp and clear. Once you step into the flow, resistance dissolves.

Your sexual energy is not meant to be hoarded or wasted—it is meant to move, inspire, and create. When you learn to wield it, procrastination is no longer your master. You become the artist, the creator, the lover of your own destiny and this is where as a woman and your Tantric coach I excel. I am here to remind you to tap into your sexual creative energy to help you come back to focus and on goal. This blending of both your softer yin and harder yang energies can help you get so much more done in your day to day. Remember that from a Tantric standpoint, PRESENCE is the highest core value of a man. These 5 ways will help you supercharge your presence and get out of procrastination. I'd love which one you'll try, leave me a comment and, find me on Instagram so we can keep this conversation going!:)

Thank you and have a wonderful day!

Much love,

Emma