The New Sexual Code — From Performance to Devotion
Last week, I lead a "Speed Dating" event in New York City. My Soul Gazing: Slow Dating Ritual, as I called it, was nothing short of extraordinary.
Something profound unfolded in that temple space — something I believe marks the future of love, connection, and masculine sexuality.
As men and women sat across from one another in silence, looking into each other’s eyes, the walls began to crumble.
But what moved me most…
was what happened when I asked the men to soul gaze with each other.
At first, there was hesitation — a mix of discomfort and guardedness.
But then, something ancient remembered itself.
Because real men can hold space for other Kings.
Real men are protectors not only of women and children — but of Men.
If we look back in time, when men went to war, they fought side by side, heart to heart, trusting one another with their lives.
What is more intimate than dying together?
Yet in times of peace, many men struggle to let the guard down — to be seen, to soften, to let another man in.
And that night… they did.
Here’s what two men shared after:
“I felt such vulnerability during your event, in a positive way. I felt safe letting someone gaze into my eyes and I could do it. Then, to hear back from people what they felt just by looking into my eyes was incredible. It made me feel safe within myself and gave me confidence in a new way that I haven't felt. You created such a wonderful fun safe space! I'm excited for more of your workshops!”
— Aidan
“Last night eye gazing with you I felt a full charge of energy enter me and I felt my toes buzz and tingle, then my hands, my chest, my head and it was tingling all over. I've never felt this! It was an amazing experience.”
— Gabriel
And here’s what I felt as a woman witnessing them and eye-gazing with each of them:
Had I met these men on a dating app or at a regular mixer, I might not have said yes to a date.
But after just a few minutes of eye gazing — the depth, the goodness, the vulnerability I saw in their eyes —
it would have been an instant F** YES.*
Because this is what devotion looks like.
It’s not about performance.
It’s about presence.
It’s about truth.
And this, beloved, is the foundation of The New Sexual Code.
The Old Sexual Code
Most men were taught to see sexuality as:
Performance-based– sex as proof of manhood.
Goal-oriented– orgasm as the finish line.
Shame-filled– erection changes or desire fluctuations seen as weakness.
Disconnected– sexuality cut off from heart and soul.
Dominant or Passive– swinging between control or collapse with the feminine.
This old story left men anxious, isolated, and trapped in performance.
But the Warriors of this generation are rewriting that story.
They are remembering that sexuality is not something to prove — it is something tohonor.
The New Sexual Code — The Warrior’s Sexual Code
The foundation of the movement I am facilitating, The Warrior’s Calling, we are anchoring a new paradigm of masculine sexuality: a devotion that redefines power, presence, and purpose and I'm very interested in hearing your thoughts on it. It is written like a Warrior's Oath.
Devotional– I offer my sexual energy with reverence, honoring myself, women, and life as sacred.
Expansive– I free pleasure from the limits of performance and orgasm; my whole body, heart, and spirit are alive with erotic power.
Empowered– I release shame and claim my cock, my desire, and my erotic presence as sources of strength.
Connected– I unite sex with love, presence, and spirit; I refuse to separate my sexuality from my heart.
Responsible– I contain and channel my power consciously — never to harm, always to uplift and protect.
Transformational– I use my sexuality as fuel for growth, service, and legacy; every encounter is an opportunity to evolve.
This is not just a philosophy — it’s a movement.
A new code of devotion where men remember who they truly are: protectors, lovers, leaders, and brothers.
If your soul knows you are meant to live by this Code — to embody it —
then this is your invitation.
Step into the brotherhood rewriting the story of masculine sexuality through sacred devotion and experience through Tantric practice what sexual devotion feels like in your masturbation and in making love to a partner.
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In devotional love,
Emma
Your Tantric Sex, Love and Relationship Teacher
